I pray for him sometimes, not every day, but when I do I pray for help for him, for guidance, for his happiness, his health, his prosperity, and that he finds a wife, because the bible says that he who finds a wife finds a good thing (Proverbs 18:22). This guy had been through a lot and was a little bit jaded, he was vulnerable yet he was so gentle and so sensitive, so sweet. I could just feel in my soul how much he needed a good woman in his life to love and nurture him, even if he couldn’t see it, yet. I realized that he may not know it or be able to acknowledge it yet, but this guy is the kind of guy that would actually benefit from being married to the right person…
Allow me to clarify; I honestly believe marriage isn’t for everyone. I’m not saying companionship isn’t for everyone, but what I am saying is that I believe that some people do better alone and perhaps were meant to live and die unmarried. We all have our callings and our purposes and I truly believe that being unmarried is an integral slice in the pie of some people’s lives. Vague examples that come to mind are Mother Theresa, the artist Michelangelo, and Sir Isaac Newton. Their causes, their purposes for being here on this earth were greater than themselves and a marriage and the commitment of all that marriage entails may not have been fair to them or their spouse. I truly believe that people like that may have lived and died absolutely content, fulfilled and even happy being unmarried the same way that two people that married the right person would have live and died fulfilled and happy also. I believe this to be true simply because in each case each person would have lived the life and walked the path that they were meant to.
I don’t consider myself a person meant to live and die unmarried. I crave the love, passion, companionship, support, stability and acceptance that a good marriage provides. Yet still, I both fear and love the idea of marriage. I love the idea of having someone to come home to, someone that gets you, that truly understands you, someone that will be there for you when you’re happy, when you’re sad, when you’re mad, when you’re sick, someone who has agreed before God and man that no matter what happens, they will not leave your side, they want to be with you, always. The idea is truly breathtaking. At the same time I’m terrified of marriage; one person to be with, forever…until you die… How do they not get sick of me, how do I not get sick of them, how do I live my life, my whole life, with another person there at all times, who will see me and be around me all the time, and still love me, and still want me, and still be happy, and will I still be happy too? Thousands of people do it, every day, and many fail, but, is it something that I can pull off, me, successfully? The idea of it is breathtaking, but in a more gasping for air kind of way.
The reality is being single is a gift. The gift of singleness may be a seasonal gift or a lifetime gift. Equally so, being married (to the right person) is also a gift. I think deep inside each person knows or eventually starts to figure out which path they are meant to take…so, whatever that path, accept it and embrace it, it’s YOUR path for a season or for a reason.
New King James Version (NKJV)
4 Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart.
God Gave Me You by Blake Shelton
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